John on March 27, 2006 at 11:20 am
With gay marriage on the table and multiple marriage on TV, it’s easy to forget that marriage has been in trouble for a long time. Today the LA Times has an excellent piece headlined “Marriage is for White People” about the decline of marriage in the black community.
The title comes from an exchange the author, Joy Jones, had with a 12 year old student who wanted to learn about fatherhood but found marriage distatsteful. The article is chock full of good quotes including this one later in the piece:
I was stunned to learn that a black child was more likely to grow up living with both parents during slavery days than he or she is today, according to sociologist Andrew J. Cherlin.
The author goes on to suggest that what is common in the black community today will likely become common among all races tomorrow. I think she is probably right about this. As fewer and fewer people see any benefit to marriage for themselves, more and more children will grow up thinking marriage is something extra-ordinary.
Hugh Hefner is looking more and more like a prophet. This change is really just the societal outcome of the Playboy lifestyle, a lifestyle romanticized and glorified in black popular culture as both rewarding and authentic. Witness the best song winner at this year’s Oscar which went to “It’s Hard Out Here for a Pimp.” But while Hollywood and MTV continue to celebrate sexual freedom, the less glamourous real world results of this change are on display in our prisons.
We are headed toward a nation of single-mothers and freelance fathers. One can hardly doubt that internet porn is going to greatly accelerate the change to a marriage-less society, a change that is already pretty far along in the black community.
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